Philippians 2:1-4 ERV; Think about what we have in Christ: the encouragement he has brought us, the comfort of his love, our sharing in his Spirit, and the mercy and kindness he has shown us. If you enjoy these blessings, then do what will make my joy complete: Agree with each other, and show your love for each other. Be united in your goals and in the way you think. In whatever you do, don’t let selfishness or pride be your guide. Be humble, and honor others more than yourselves. Don’t be interested only in your own life, but care about the lives of others too.
I’ve often been asked how Walt and I have stayed married so long. This passage pretty much sums it all up; agree with each other (don’t argue over everything-it’s just not worth it) and SHOW your love for each other. Be united in your goals and the way you think. You have to be going in the same direction! Have goals that unite you, not divide you. Oh, and the next part is HUGE! Don’t let selfishness or pride be your guide. You must always consider the other person because you two are one now. It will never be just about you ever again! If you want to live selfish, DON’T get married because there is no I in WE.
Lastly, be humble and honor your spouse above yourself. I try to brag on Walt, tell people what an awesome man he is. I do it in front of him and behind his back. We have this little game we play with each other, sort of a competition, to see who can outdo each other. We’re so focused on serving each other and creating a loving environment in our home, lifting each other up, helping each other reach goals, encouraging and praying for each other. Our goal is to be an example of what marriage was created it be like. Are we perfect-NO! Do we have problems-YES! But we don’t allow the problems to carry us away from each other, we merely link arms and find ways to overcome them.
Father, I thank you for the husband you’ve given me. I thank you for his deep love for You, that as he honors You, he honors me. Thanks for giving him to me because he was exactly who I needed to partner with in life. Through this journey, I have learned that love and service begins at home, everything else spills over from there. Bless my husband today. Enlarge his territory and give him good success in all he does. Your hand on his life, it’s the only blessing that matters. May he find favor with You and with man. It’s in Jesus’ name I pray. Amen