Why would you focus on the flaw in someone else’s life and yet fail to notice the glaring flaws of your own? How could you say to your friend, ‘Let me show you where you’re wrong,’ when you’re guilty of even more? You’re being hypercritical and a hypocrite! First acknowledge your own ‘blind spots’ and deal with them, and then you’ll be capable of dealing with the ‘blind spot’ of your friend. Matthew 7:3-5 TPT
Guilty! It’s always way easier to see the flaws in others and I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one. If only everyone were as perfect as I am! Now THAT was funny!
When I find myself focusing on someone’s flaws, it seems I hear the Holy Spirit bringing me back to these verses. It’s a tap on the shoulder, a whisper in my ear and sometimes, a thump on the gourd, just to remind me to stop doing that.
Please hear me on this, just because someone isn’t like you, doesn’t mean they’re flawed, broken or unfit to be used. Quite the opposite! Every great man or woman in the Bible that God used were all a bit broken. But He wouldn’t have it any other way. People who think they are perfect don’t need a perfect God.
Remember when your mom used to say, “Don’t stare, it’s not polite!” That was some good advise to follow. Just because someone looks different, talks different or seems a bit off, doesn’t give you the right to accentuate that by staring.
Each and everyone of us were created in the image and likeness of God. He doesn’t make mistakes. He knows the plans He has for each one and we all fit perfectly into the masterpiece He’s painting. All those flaws–colors on the canvas. He’s working on something so let Him work.
What if that one person that bugs you so much ends up being the one who pays off your debt. Bet you’ll look at them differently then! What if their faith heals your child, or ends up rescuing that loved one you’ve been praying so hard for.
If I had yielded my focus back then, I would have missed out on the best girlfriend God placed in my life. I can tell you with certainty, I would have left my husband long ago if I allowed myself to let the flaws cloud my vision. Instead, I chose to see them as God does and they’ve both changed my life forever.
I invite you to do the same. Each time you see someone and are tempted to ‘change’ them, ask God what you’re missing? Accept them, flaws and all. Love them, flaws and all. Once you begin to see them as He does, the canvas He’s painting will be seen and enjoyed. Don’t waste your time trying to create perfect people. He who started the work will be faithful to complete it just as He’d planned all along.