Some of us need to wear a sign; Caution, Hot Steam! Because when we vent, we’re just plain mean! We don’t care what we say or how it affects others. If it feels good, do it!
Have you noticed how many people are infected with anger? I’m no expert, but I do know that anger is an emotion. The dictionary defines it as;
Driving seems to bring out extreme anger in everyone. If you’re reading this and haven’t experienced that, please tell me your secret. I’ve been praying and someone cuts me off in traffic and I immediately yell, “OMG, are you blind! Jerk!” I laughed when I realized how quickly I went from ‘holy’ to ‘unholy’. Busted! That’s called venting.
So I woke up at 2:30am because Walts c-pap mask was whistling and I just couldn’t go back to sleep. It’s not his fault, right? I mean, he didn’t intentionally make it whistle like a tea kettle and wake me out of a sound sleep. I nudged him gently the first 3 times, but the 4th time, I felt like pushing him out of bed. I didn’t! But I wanted to!
As I lay there begging God to PLEASE help me fall back to sleep, I felt the Lord stirring me into a word study about anger, how to correctly handle it like He would. The first thing I thought of was the whining children of Israel and how the earth opened and swallowed them up. It made me so very thankful that Jesus became our mediator or I’m pretty sure we’d see more of that!
Psalm 4:4 says, “Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still.” That right there is the hardest thing to do. To lay quiet and think it through before you open your mouth. I believe the venting part is what gets us into trouble. When we spew our venom on everyone around us because we’ve been wronged, people get burned. If you’ve ever had a steam burn, you’ll understand this, because when you vent a boiling pot, whoever is standing in the way will feel the affect of it.
Make a choice to think the best, not the worst. When something you can’t control causes anger to boil up in you, take a deep breath and release it to the Father. Choose to forgive and walk in love. No, it’s not easy. Sometimes it’s near impossible, but it’s all based on what and how you choose to think about it. I personally don’t want to carry someone else’s anger with me.
I believe what we do with our anger is what causes us to sin. If we become hurtful to others, we’re not walking in love, we’re not forgiving and those were two HUGE things Jesus said to do. You may remember what was done to you, but if each time you think about it, those angry feelings accompany it, you haven’t forgiven. When you can discuss it without those feelings attached to it, you’ve allowed the healing balm of love to destroy it’s hold on you.
Father, I’m sure I’ve caused people to be angry with me. Please forgive me! I ask that whoever I’ve offended or hurt with my words would find healing in Your word. I know I’ve definitely vented more often than I should have. For all who have been steam burned by my venting, I ask forgiveness. I release all these emotions to You, Lord. I humbly ask You to continue teaching me how to deal with all of this so that Your love would show through more than anything else. It’s in Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.