Proverbs 17:9 Voice; Those who forgive faults foster love, but those who repeatedly recall them ruin relationships.
Have you ever sat with a friend who constantly rehearses the wounding they’ve received from others? They sing their own, “Somebody done somebody wrong” song, creating new verses each time they tell their story. You try to change the subject, but the song is stuck in their head and they just don’t seem to be able to shake it. We all do it at times, especially when it’s fresh in our minds and the pain in our hearts won’t go away.
I love this verse because it shows there is a flip side; you can foster love instead. That word foster is defined as;
Philippians 4:8-9 comes to mind and I love it in this translations; “Finally, brothers and sisters, fill your minds with beauty and truth. Meditate on whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is good, whatever is virtuous and praiseworthy. Keep to the script: whatever you learned and received and heard and saw in me—do it—and the God of peace will walk with you.” So when we keep our minds on lovely things, the God of peace will walk with us. If we were to memorize these two verses and actually do them, they would change our lives and attitudes.
Lets begin to foster love, not hurt. To find the good in others and not focus on their faults. Change always begins with ‘me’. Me is the only one I have control of. I can change myself but I can’t change others, that is the Holy Spirits job. It’s time to look in the mirror and ask the Holy Spirit to clean house so that the light in us isn’t hindered by filthy glass. We can make a bigger difference by not opening our mouth and just allowing Love to do it’s perfect work.
Father, I have spent too much time rehearsing the bad and not focusing on the good, and it’s clouded my judgement, my thoughts and words. Forgive me. May my focus be more on You and what you’ve done for me, how you’ve set me free, forgiven me and washed me. Oh God, just the thought of your love makes me melt like snow before a fire. One thing you’ve required of me and that is to love. Love you with all my heart and my neighbor as myself. The only way I can love like that is to allow your love to channel through me to others. The more I surrender to you, the more I enable you to work through me. Here I am. May I be an explosion of love that messes up everyone I meet. It’s in Jesus’ Name I ask this. Amen