I’ve been challenged by the Lord lately to step up the game in our marriage. When you’ve been married a long while, there are times you take each other for granted. The role you’ve always played seems to be what’s expected of you. If you’ve always taken out the trash, it’s expected for you to take out the trash. If your role is to cook the meals, meals are expected. You get my drift, right? Sometimes you have to step up and do things that are unexpected, ‘bear one another’s burdens’ so to speak. It just gives you a new appreciation of what your spouse does for you.
You see, I can’t go out and be a good Christian at church and in my community and neglect doing what is right at home. If I live a different life in private than I do in public, that does not glorify God. If I change the world with the love of God but my spouse doesn’t get to see that, I’m fooling myself. I must first be an example of love in my home and let it spill over into my community.
I Peter 3:1-6 says; “The same goes for you wives: Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs. There are husbands who, indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated by your life of holy beauty. What matters is not your outer appearance—the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes—but your inner disposition. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in. The holy women of old were beautiful before God that way, and were good, loyal wives to their husbands. Sarah, for instance, taking care of Abraham, would address him as “my dear husband.” You’ll be true daughters of Sarah if you do the same, unanxious and unintimidated.”
And PLEASE don’t say you can’t do this! We HAVE to do this! Our lives must reflect God at home first or our husbands will not want anything to do with the God we ‘serve’. We’re merely serving ourselves and what ever pleases us or makes us happy. The very next verse tells it like this, “Summing up: Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless—that’s your job, to bless. You’ll be a blessing and also get a blessing.”
Old habits die hard but here’s how it happens; spend time in the presence of the Father. Fill your mind with the Word and treat your spouse as if they were Jesus himself, because God loved them SO much he sent Jesus to die for them too.
I could go on, but I have to get ready for work. Be blessed today and be challenged regardless of the number of years you’ve been together, God wants to take your marriage to new levels, it’s going to take you humbling yourself, asking forgiveness, respecting and honoring, but I promise this one thing, change must begin with you.